By: Mia L. Hazlett
“Could you please just answer my question? Do you believe in God? Better yet, are you a Christian?” Her avoidance was beginning to irritate me. A simple yes or no is all I needed to hear and we could move on.
“Honestly Mrs. Devins that is a very personal question which is irrelevant to our discussion. I would really like to stay on track about your treatment,” the doctor shifted uncomfortably in her seat.
It amazed me she found my questions personal. Over the past three weeks, we had shared the most intimate conversations about every aspect of not only my medical history, but of every woman in my family. Every private detail about the current state of my body was spelled out in the little labeled manila folder she kept glancing at before she would ask me very “personal” questions.
She just didn’t get it. I needed to be reassured that she didn’t think she was God. I needed her to know that I wasn’t leaving my life in her hands, but I was praying to God to deliver an optimal outcome. God was a huge part of my life and now I was supposed to put Him on the back burner to make sure she felt comfortable. She looked at this as “treatment”, I perceived this “discussion” as my life. My cancer treatment would alter my life forever.
I wasn’t requesting her to go through this treatment with me. I’m not some religious zealot that was going to deny medical treatment and rely completely on prayer. I just needed to know that through however long this treatment was going to take, she would respect my prayers to take precedent over medicine when I needed it to.
The point is, I’m scared. I don’t know the outcome of all of this and neither does she. If it’s God’s will to take me home, I have to accept it somehow. These are the conversations I’ve been having with Him since I was diagnosed. Anger creeps in every now and again, but for the most part, I must remain faithful that He is in control. So as irrelevant as she may find my simple question, she needs to understand she’s not in control. She can squirm and shift all she wants in that chair, but I’m not leaving here without a yes or no.